The ole Santa Claus came he saw and conquered the Christmas game. I got pretty much everything I wanted. There was one more thing I could have gotten but that may need a little help from Cupid not Santa.
But after taking a little break for the holidays I am back and I’m going to blow your minds with information over the next few weeks about idiots upon idiots, falling in love and my personal favorite….
How to dig yourself out of the biggest hole you made for yourself.
I clearly love doing that to myself. But today my friends we are going to scream out loud together, 2020 is going to be amazing and the best year of our lives! Or the year of saying yes as I like to call it. Life is too damn short, and I am just starting to actually realize that.
I can’t be wasting my time on people that could clearly be okay without me. I have to learn that some friends that once were great may not turn out to be the best of friends forever. We gotta do what we love, be unapologetically happy and do everything big and don’t look back. It’s okay to be happy and we need to let ourselves!
Say yes to that vacation, say yes to that new job, say yes to meeting new people, say yes to going on that date. The more you say yes the more you open up your doors to endless possibilities.
New Years always excites me because it brings out the child in me which believes anything can happen. So, with that being said we are going to go through some guidelines to help you have the best year of your life!
1. Go on more vacations
I can’t stress this enough, you will always make your money back but the memories and the fun is something you can never get back. I work my ass off so I can enjoy as many vacations as I need. I love traveling with my friends, trying new foods, and meeting new people. Was I always like this?
No, I use to be a homebody in a very toxic relationship that took years away from me. And now I look at myself in the mirror and see this empowered goddess who does what she wants and when she wants and this new Ali is the Ali I think I’d like to keep.
I stopped thinking about the what ifs and just started saying yes to little trips and those little trips turned into big trips and those big trips turned into me traveling to another country with my best friend. You have to remember to take time for yourself even if that trip means laying in your bed for 3 days binge watching the office. YOU are the most important person and you remember that.
2. Say yes to go on that date
Meeting new people is tough, especially after getting out of a relationship. You always hold onto baggage from previous relationships it’s just something our brain does. And yes, a lot of dates won’t turn into anything but at least you tried and put yourself out there. To find the right person to have to be open to meeting people and open to the idea. I’m the first person who rather jump off a cliff then go on a date but this year I really tried. I met some idiots and I met some really great people. Having an open mind is key. I do this thing where I make a million excuses on why this guy will be awful and this date will be a waste of time but 9/10 times I am wrong and I actually have a good time. Don’t be scared to get back out there, you will find the love of your life everyone has a different timeline and a different story.
3. Stop wondering if you’re good enough
I hate when people make us feel this way. You can be all confident and then you hear one thing down the gossip lane and all of a sudden you wonder if you’re good enough, or pretty enough or smart enough. Well, fuck that noise. No one I repeat no one should ever make you feel like that. Stop wondering if you are good enough for other people and ask the question are they good enough for you? Don’t let anyone ever make you feel small, or that you don’t deserve all the happiness in the world, because the answer is you do. I’m finally now learning how to deal with gossip and not giving a fuck. People are going to talk, people are going to say fucked up things about you and it sucks but if you are secure within yourself none of that bullshit should matter. I mean from personal experience it’s incredibly hard especially when you like someone and they don’t like you back and then your mind goes into that tailspin of all the reasons on why you’re not good enough but the 19 year old hoe is…. I’m sorry that wasn’t 2020 of me, “the 19 year old nice hoe.”
It’s just not worth it people, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you or other people see it and that’s just how the cookie crumbles and the faster you get over it the faster you are going to be stepping into that wonderful life.
4. Be honest
Now this can mean a lot of different things, whether it’s being honest with yourself or with others. To me New Years is the biggest night of the year, it’s the time to get things off your chest, to get rid of any negative energy you may be holding onto and be gone with it. We are not bringing any toxic shit with us into 2020. So, if you’re mad at someone tell them and talk it out. If you hate your job, talk to a manager and see if there is anything they can do… maybe you’re working too much? If you want to kiss someone go smooch their face, ain’t no one pushing away an amazing person like you. If you love someone, let them know. If you’re falling in love scream it from the roof tops! Stop wasting your time on being scared. A little rejection never killed anyone it made us stronger. It’s okay to be honest with yourself when things aren’t going well, get out a good cry and then laugh because you’ve realized how silly it is to take anything too seriously.
You’re probably like, okay Ali can talk the talk but can she walk the walk? And the answer is I’m sure going to try. Yes, I’m pretty sure I feel a certain way about a certain person and once I became honest with that idea within myself and with others it was like a weight had lifted off my chest. So, yes being honest works! Go tell that person how you feel right now before it’s too late! Knowing is better then wondering and even the biggest failure beats the hell out of ever trying.
5. Be yourself
The most important thing I can tell you today is to be yourself. Stop faking it for other people, stop wondering if you’re being a weirdo or care what people think. This is the first year I can tell you I am 100 percent full on Ali Baker at all times like so much Ali Baker I annoy myself. I keep getting lately from people that I look amazing and honey the trick is you glow a different way when you are genuinely to your core happy and not trying to be anyone else. Goofing around, screaming on the top of my lungs, singing at all times of the day, loving so hard it hurts, that is 100 percent authentic Ali Baker and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Yeah, sometimes I’m too spontaneous and jump without thinking and drink too much tequila which then makes me get angry because I can’t say how I really feel but I love that girl. She is fierce, fabulous and I could literally give a flying fart what anyone says about me. Because at the end of the day I know the truth and I know even if I get my feelings hurt I know that I tried and rather be loud and proud then boring.
Last year I moved across the country thinking that moving would solve everything in the world for me. And all it did was put a big band aid on an even bigger wound. I was trying to find myself and moving was something I had to do. And when I was out in Cali I woke up one morning having this full on realization….
What the eff am I doing?
Whatever I had been going through was just gone. All the hurt feelings and stress was just gone in the night. In that moment I decided it was time to go home. I had found that girl I was always looking for I became the Ali Baker you know today and back to the girl who I was when I was 16. So I guess stepping outside of my comfort zone snapped my body back into the real me. And I can say without any hesitation I am the happiest person I have ever been in my life. I’m this adult with feelings that I finally know how to manage and I do adult like things and I have a cat and he’s the bomb. Moving across the country healed me and look at me now.
I guess what I’m saying is repeat after me because I am living proof all of things above will truly shape you into the best version of yourself in the new year!
Happy New Years everyone I love you.
I think I fell hard like holding a radio over my head outside your window hard…
Holy fucking shit.
Stay tuned next week!
Advice of the week: if he ain’t following you around like the camera man on Maury, he ain’t the one sis.